Going through a divorce is hard for everyone involved. This includes both parents and children, though children often end up becoming second thoughts in the turmoil and grief of a relationship coming to an end.
Still, you want to treat your child as well as possible through the split. This includes breaking the news as easily as you can. But how do you do this?
Providing safety
According to Psychology Today, you can tell your child about divorce in a way that does as little damage as possible. How? By working together with your co-parent. This is a feat easier said than done for most, but it is crucial for your child’s well-being.
First, working with your co-parent provides them with a sense of safety. They understand that despite your differences, you will still come together for their sake. You can still work with each other and provide a stable foundation. This will reassure them and provide a sense of security that can help them cope with future changes.
Preparing for conversation
Next, it lets you decide how you want to tackle hard conversations. What questions do you anticipate? How will you react? What information will you share, and what will you keep to yourself? It is important to decide all these before you start your talks, and you can do it much easier if you are working together.
It also lets you keep each other in check. You can step in and monitor discussions, ensuring that no lies or slander get spread accidentally or intentionally from either side. This balance helps both of you and your child out.
