It can be hard to cope with having your children away from you. They may live with your ex-spouse more regularly or seem distant when they’re with you. Whatever the situation is, it’s complicated when your children have been through a divorce and now live split lives.
If you are worried that your ex-spouse may be encouraging your children to stay away from you or to avoid you when they have to come to your home, then you may be starting to look into something called parental alienation. Parental alienation is a rough situation in which one parent manipulates their children to avoid, or even hate, the other parent. Sometimes, this isn’t done intentionally. For example, the parent influencing the children may simply have a strong dislike of their ex-spouse and be very verbal about it. Regardless of the intentions, if your children are reacting to their other parent’s actions by avoiding you or rejecting you, then that is a problem.
How common is parental alienation?
Parental alienation is more common than you may think. Looking at representative sampling, around 13.4% of parents actually identified as being alienated by at least one of their children.
It’s difficult to handle a situation where your child refuses to visit you, feels hatred for you or otherwise is unwilling to be with you. If you’re dealing with this, then it’s important to talk to your attorney and to take your case to the judge. There are things that can be done to prevent parental alienation from continuing and ruining your relationship with your child.