You may not have expected marriage to always be easy, but you probably didn’t expect it to be this rough all the time either.
So, how do you know that it’s time for a divorce as opposed to seeking therapy together as a couple? Here are the signs that it’s time for a split:
1. Every little thing turns into an argument
When the most mundane things about your spouse irritate you — from the way he or she chews food to the mess he or she leaves in the bathroom — that’s a sign that your anger toward the relationship runs pretty deep.
2. You’re honestly just too tired to fight about one more thing
On the flip side of anger, there’s exhaustion and depression. Some therapists say that depression is really just anger without any enthusiasm. When you’re too tired to care whether your spouse changes his or her behavior, it’s probably time to get out.
3. You have absolutely nothing to say to each other
Do dinners get spent mostly in silence? Do you spend most of your time with your spouse on the phone, looking at Facebook or something else — rather than talking? If you’ve run out of things to say to each other, the odds are good that you’re no longer emotionally intimate with each other — and that’s usually a sign the marriage is over.
4. You have no desire for intimacy with your spouse
There’s no one level of intimacy that’s right for every couple — but you know what’s right for you. If you no longer feel attracted to your spouse (or are starting to feel attracted to someone else), you may be in a marriage that’s doomed.
5. You’re really starting to imagine a life alone
If you have a realistic idea of what it would be like to be single — and you’re starting to prefer the idea over the constant strain of your marriage — that’s a sign that you’re ready for a divorce.
Ultimately, you are the only person who can decide if your marriage is worth keeping. When you’re ready to make a change, however, a family law attorney can help you understand more about the process of divorce and your options.